Still on the Brené Brown path… in my usual overly passionate way I bought every book written by her I could find on Amazon and am now trawling through them… I love this gem… ” When we stop caring about what people think, we lose our capacity for connection. When we become defined by what people think, we lose our willingness to be vulnerable. If we dismiss all the criticism, we lose out on important feedback, but if we subject ourselves to the hatefulness, our spirits get crushed. It’s a tightrope, shame resilience is the balance bar, and the safety net below is the one or two people in our lives who can help us reality-check the criticism and cynicism.” Working through 360s for a number of clients this provides such a perfect and gentle framework from which to view the feedback, which for some can be really confronting.
Her Tedtalk on Vulnerability is one of the most watched of all time…and I was lucky enough to see Brené Brown yesterday… She is even more believable and authentic in person and possesses this rare capacity for storytelling that is enthralling and funny and sensitive and real… and one of my favourite gems: “Our willingness to be wholehearted is also our willingness to be brokenhearted”
Thank you to Caitlin for this beautiful Sufi quote…
Before you speak let your words pass through three gates.
At the first gate ask yourself, “Is it true?”
At the second gate ask, “Is it necessary?”
And at the third gate ask, “Is it kind?”
Yesterday I spent the day at a workshop with the mystic and founder of the Institute of Sacred Activism, Andrew Harvey...he is mesmerising, confronting, funny and demanding… Initially I was lulled into thinking it was an interesting workshop (his language is colourful and his voice soothing) but had heard much of it before in different guises… he spoke of humility and trust… wisdom and freedom… and provided simple practices to develop and strengthen our spiritual practices…and then he managed to punch us collectively right between the eyes… the gentleness of the morning replaced by what he calls the wisdom of the serpent which is effectively profound shadow work. Now I do love work with the shadow because I believe so deeply this is where the magic happens and of course this where we constantly stumble and struggle… WOW …but he takes no prisoners… he stands unashamedly in his truth… so by the end of the afternoon myself and I think my fellow participants felt battle-weary and certainly for me this rising anxiety about my own shadow and the shadow of the wider world… huge stuff for a Saturday… He is truly extraordinary… if only to shake you off your perch.
It is just over a month and we are almost full… just a handful of places left… If you’re interested in joining us for a fabulous weekend… check out the website.
Boot&Soul Camp is on again at the end of June… We are hoping to get a fabulous group of women together…Interested in joining us…pick up a brochure on the website
Watching the hideous footage of the Boston marathon and then the debacle with the gun debate, there’s this rare moment when the news delivers something we can be proud of… NZ – congratulations on being the first country in the Asia Pacific area to legalise same-sex marriage… It’s worth watching what has been described as an “epic” speech by a member of NZ parliament, Maurice Williamson…